Children on Divorced Parents

Almost 5 of every 10 marriages today end in divorce and accept it or not, children are the ones greatly affected by it. It’s just as hard for the children if not even harder than for the parents. They are the ones who will experience change that divorce may bring. As what I’ve said in my previous blog, everyone involved in a divorce suffers.

But why do parents divorce? Parents divorce for many reasons. Most of the time, divorce happens when the couples feel that they can no longer live together and the reason for it are sometimes because of fighting, anger or their love for each other has changed. However, the worst part of divorce is when the reason for their separation is if one parent falls in love with someone else. When this happens, the children will surely be confused and will feel out of place in the family.

During this difficult period of divorce, sometimes the parents don’t tell their children what is happening and this often results to children misinterpreting the situation. They don’t explain whether the children are involved or not and they don’t explain what will happen to them. Because of this, children will most likely think that they are the cause of the conflict between their parents. They will feel obligated of brining their parents back together and the worst part of it, sacrificing themselves.  

Children usually think that divorce of their parents is usually their fault. It will surely break the family if the father and mother get divorced. So what’s good thing about divorce? Some kids will just be guilty or wish they could have prevented arguments by their parents by cooperating more inside the family. The pain that the children will experience on divorce will seriously hurt their family and of course the kid himself. It will surely be a significant mark on a child’s life. The parents who have decided to go on a divorce should think about the consequences that it may bring to his or her children, like for example their parent-child relationship will surely be affected, emotions and behaviour of the child, and the psychological development of the children. Divorce will surely increase the risk of behaviour problems of the children. They will most likely develop problems with anger, disobedience and rule violations. It can also affect their performance in school.

Divorce isn’t easy, especially for the children. It can be stressful to them, sad and confusing. Most children do not want their parents separated because they will feel uncertain of what life will be like or what future holds for them. They may sometimes be angry with their mother or father for splitting up and sometimes, they even just choose to stay with their grandparents. How long the transition will last depends on how chaotic or how calm the separation happened. If the parents managed to do a good job fixing the stresses of divorce then the children will also be fast in adjusting to the situation. 

Sources:
Divorce in the Family
Dealing with Divorce
How Divorce Affects Children