FOR WOMEN - It's Not Yet The End: Surviving Life After Divorce (Part 1)

Divorce is painful. It is a great loss and a crisis which has a huge impact on the lives of everyone that are involved.  The pain that one can suffer from a divorce is not something that will quickly go away. It is something that has to be worked through. I found a site called All the Women Want which was written by a female talking about steps in which one female can possibly do after divorce so that she can be back to a fulfilling life.

Here are the steps:

1. Think Single – After being divorced, life as a single woman could be very hard. Lots of changes will happen and these changes may not be the life that one has been used to so don’t expect it to be easy. But just think of the bright side as a single woman, you can do anything you want and go anywhere you want. Just go and hang out with some of your friends and relax yourself because these changes may take time.

2. Remind Yourself It’s Ok to Be Single – In our society today, single women are often looked down by their married peers thus leading us to believe that we are failures. That the “real” women are the ones involved in a healthy loving, lasting relationships. But this is not true. There a lot of women who choose to remain single or to stay out of a broken relationship and it doesn’t mean that she is weak. In fact it is a sign of strength that you can face problems and challenges alone and just show them that it’s okay to be single.

3. Don’t Try to Get Even – No matter how angry you are at your partner because he did something unfaithful to you, don’t try to get even with him. It will just end up exhausting yourself on something that has no worth because it won’t get him back. It will just stop you from moving on. Maybe what one can do is look for a friend who’s willing to listen and tell her how you feel. All anger needs is an outlet, but getting even with him will do no good for both of you.

4. Accept That the Relationship is Over – Women usually have problems regarding this issue. Sometimes girls would make excuses just to visit him by forgetting things at his place, need to discuss issues about their children. One should always know how to keep distance. It doesn’t mean that you cannot talk to him or visit him, just know how to keep distance and accept that both of you have separate lives. The sooner one accepts this; the quicker one will move on and be able to find happiness again.

5. Don’t Become Lonely – In whatever you do, you must always try to be positive. Look at the bright side of life and as much as possible, don’t think of your life with your ex-partner because this will just lead to loneliness. Think of the good things that have happened with your life and focus more with your children. Do something that you like the most.

To Be Continued.. J